An Update - January 2024

 Life has happened and time has gotten away from me.  My last post was the evening before my 13th anniversary, and now I am approaching my 19th.

My move to Arkansas has been the best decision I have made in a while.  I'm enjoying serving as the Headmaster for Haas Hall Academy at the Jones Center in Springdale.  In the 7 years that we've been open, we have progressed to ranking in the top 4 high schools in the State, and in fact in one ranking were listed as number 1.  All of this is due to the efforts of the teaching staff and the scholars.

Personally, my health has been fantastic.  I'm approaching my 19th anniversary and all has been great.  My only issues are due to bone density loss which is causing pain in joints, spinal area, feet.  This is all caused by the anti-rejection meds.  I did get a light case of Covid-19 but was given the antibodies and recovered quickly.  I get boosted as often as my doctors allow and continue to monitor numbers of cases in the area.

As far as mental health, I rescued a dog in June of 2018 and he has been the best thing for that!  He is totally spoiled and loved by all and is a great resource to help me relax and companionship.  I've also recently got back into crafting, mainly Cricut materials, and while it is an expensive hobby it does make my mind think in different ways.

My parents are now in their mid to upper 80's and their health is declining.  That is the only thing that makes being over this way hard.  I stay in constant contact with them and have now started picking them up and bringing them over for holidays and things so they don't have to drive.  Mom had a bad case of Covid and hasn't really recovered from it.  Dad caught it as well but like me, caught it early and got the antibodies so had a quick recovery.  Mom didn't...she was hospitalized for a while and has had some long Covid issues.  Time is starting to wind down and I'm trying to do all I can to see them as often as possible.

My brother and sister-in-law are over here and help when needed.  They took me on a conference trip to Hawaii last February where I had a great time.  They also got me a NASCAR ride package that will be happening this Spring Break in Vegas where I'll get to drive a racecar a couple of time around the track.  Not sure if that will meet the Doctor's approval but they've started telling me to do what I want since I've made it this far.

If anyone is still following, thank you for doing so.  I'm sorry it has been so long but I've had several new computers and finally found the link back to this.  I'll try to do a better job in the future.

13 Is Not An Unlucky Number

As I sit here tonight listening to the rain hit the roof, I can't help but remember what happened 13 years ago because while the nights are similar, the locations are much different, 


I walked into my school today without running out of breath and worked a full day.  That day 13 years ago, I had stopped a couple of times as I walked in, sat down at my desk, and started counting the number of days till Spring Break.  I could tell I was degenerating rapidly, and I knew that working till the middle of March was going to be very difficult to do.  It had been a hard couple of weeks.  I'd lost a cousin to cancer and a friend at work had her daughter murdered while working by her ex-husband.  I can't even begin to tell you the emotions I felt as I sat in their services.  Would this be happening again to my family and friends soon?  Had I planned (because those of you that really know me know I do this) everything well enough so my family wouldn't have to?


As I was looking at the calendar, my cell phone rang.  They had a possible match in OKC but needed me to give them some additional vials of blood to test to make sure it was the right match.  Never mind that I had given 6 vials earlier that week...they'd been sent all over the US because my doctors were seeing the same thing I was.  And of course, this was the busiest time of year for work and family.


But, family was reached and to the hospital I went.  Later in the afternoon it became obvious that this was going to work, but then Oklahoma weather hit.  First it was the rain, then the ice, then the snow, then back to rain.  The plan to Lifeflight to OKC went out the window.  As the evening wore on and other transplant teams were having difficulty getting to OKC, most of my family and friends went home to rest leaving me with my thoughts.


I'd made peace with a great many things so I was ready to accept whatever outcome developed, but that still didn't change the uncertainty of knowing this could possibly be your last night in this world.  I thought about memories and people I hadn't thought of in years and while I was told I needed to rest, there was no sleeping.  I wanted to have every moment while I could.


When they came in and told me they'd gone to harvest, my family and friends once again showed up.  The nurses argued about where they should all wait when they came to get me, and all I could think of was "hey...I'm the one here that may live or die...get me to the operating room and figure all this out later!"


Obviously, the transplant worked and after many procedures, doctor visits, and thousand upon thousand of pills, I'm fortunate enough to still be here.  There have been times when I wondered if I was going to be around much longer...like about this time last year.  And my cardiologist basically told me the same thing...change your stress or you won't be around in a couple of years.


So, I did.  I accepted a position in Arkansas working with scholars who want to learn and come to school and with much less numbers.  I'm as busy as I was before, but my stress level is so much less.  It was sad to leave friends who have supported me for @ 15 years of this (the before and after) but we stay in touch.  And I've made fantastic new friends here that are as supportive and caring. 


And I still know there are no guarantees on this.  I'm about 3 years past the average right now.  All I asked in the beginning was to be at my parents 50th wedding anniversary and see my family/friends children graduate high school.  The folks are soon approaching 60 and the kids are almost there.  Whatever time I'm granted, and I've always considered this bonus time, I want to use to the best of my ability.  And I still want to be there for my family, and fortunately Dr. S understands that.


So, as the rain falls and the memories flood, I find myself once again grateful to a family who on this day grieves for their loss.  I hope Tiffani's family takes comfort in knowing that others, like myself, have been given a second opportunity based on her generosity.  I'm trying to honor the life that was lost by living mine to the fullest and with purpose.  I hope she's proud.

It's Been Awhile!

Sometimes time just gets away from you, and that is exactly what has happened to me.  My last post was about my 12 year transplant anniversary, and here it is 11 months later and so much has changed!


When I saw Dr. E last Spring, he warned me that something needed to change or I would not be around much longer.  My stress level was way over where it needed to be, my body was developing issues from the anti-rejection meds, and I was just generally unhappy.  My case load of kids was approaching almost 500, the State of Oklahoma was not valuing the education profession, and despite working for a great district I just could not seem to get anywhere.


For several years, Susan's brother had tried to get me to come to Arkansas and work in his public Charter School.  I'd gone over during the summer and helped out a couple of weeks a summer so I was familiar with his philosophy and the success he was having.  This year they were going to open two new campus sites in Rogers and Springdale, and he offered me a position as a counselor.  After reflecting on my health and having strong consideration over leaving my 80'ish folks alone since Robert and Susan had moved to Fayetteville, I made the decision to take the job.  Boy, am I glad I did!


I decided to retire from Oklahoma 5 years early because I didn't think I'd live that long if I stayed.  I moved to Springdale in June and started working at Haas Hall Academy shortly after.  A couple of weeks before school was to start, Marty asked me to also serve as the Headmaster for the Springdale campus as well as do the counseling for grades 7-10.  Since I only had @ 170 kids to start, I felt I could handle it. 


I have been so happy to be here.  I work with kids who want to come to school...they may not be academically at the level we'd like them to be but they show up every day.  The parents don't call to cuss me out, they call to thank me for creating a safe environment for their scholar.  The staff, who I had not input in selecting, have joined together to create a family.  Even dealing with new construction and a public building, it has been so much less stressful than last year that I've dropped weight and all my doc appointments have been so much better than last year that the docs are thrilled.


My only concern has and will always be the effect of all this on my parents.  Mom had a knee replacement surgery this fall that was difficult for her at 80, and Dad has had some issues resulting in quick ambulance runs.  But, Robert has stepped up and helped a great deal as has several of my male cousins, Jimmy, Rodney, and Donnie.  Marty has known that I'll drop everything to go to my parents if needed and gratefully, he supports me in this.  I try to see them at least every other week and call several times a week.  If I could get them up on technology, we'd Skype or Facetime but they aren't quite ready for that.


So, it has been a year of change with year 13 rapidly approaching.  I've been blessed to now be 3 years past the average and hopefully with these changes I can go another 5 to 7 before any further issues develop.  At least I'll know those last years will be in a happier place.  I miss my friends and family in Oklahoma, but I'm grateful that Marty believed in me and saw past the "you know she's had a heart transplant" stigma that seemed to follow me in BA.  I plan on taking full advantage of the opportunity and continue to be as happy as I am right now.