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While I don't always enjoy the entire content, I do enjoy watching Sex In The City because, finally, someone actually understands how it feels to be single in today's world.  The issues with relationships with both the opposite and same sex, trying to live an exciting life on your own in today's world, the use of labels when you don't fit the "norm", the writing just nails it all.

This weekend two of my favorite episodes were on.  The first involves when Carrie turns 35 and she finds herself without someone special to share it with...except her other 3 soulmates...her friends Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha...even though they failed in their attempt to give her a fantastic birthday party.  Carrie gets a flyer for joining a singles group and they get into a discussion as to whether they are defined by the men in their lives. This is where we discover how old Samantha is when they have to answer one of the questions on the singles survey - which box fits your age.  I like this one because all of them finally realize that they don't have to be defined by being involved with anyone to be happy and that they have someone who will always be there to support them, care for them, and have their back. Carrie mentions how sad it made her to turn 35 and have no real man to take her to dinner, to treat her nice, etc. and I can relate to that.  But, I too have some very special "soulmates" who have my back and are always there when I need them.  Interestingly enough, their husbands often times fall into the "guys we just can have fun with" category as well.  I think everyone needs to have these kind of "soulmates" in their lives to get through the days we face.  Male or female, married or single, having these soulmates just makes the days easier to get through.  I thank God every day that I have the soulmates I do.

The other one involves Carrie becoming a model for a fashion show as one of the New York "normal" people and Samantha deciding to have nude photos of her body (at age 44) taken so that when she is old and wrinkled she can remember what she looked like.  I admire Samantha because she has that self confidence in herself that she is willing to do something that most women are scared of doing...putting herself out there for everyone to see.  Carrie goes through this period of not knowing if she's good enough to do it to realizing that she's just a "real" person.  In fact, one of my favorite lines in the entire series comes from this episode.  Carrie has tripped on the runway because of her high heeled shoes and is laying face down across the runway when Heidi Klum steps over her and continues down the runaway.  That is the point that Carrie has to decide what she's going to do, be fashion roadkill or get up and go on.  The line goes, "when real people fall down in life, they get right back up and keep on walking." And that's just what she did.  This episode is great because it show us all the flaws everyone can find in themselves and what they can concentrate on, or they can just not let anything slow them down but to keep on going.  I think everyone has those days when they want to slink off but it is more important that we never give up...just get back up and keep on going.

This past week I had to share with some parents news that no parent ever wants to hear.  As bad as it was, I could see their courage as a family would get them through.  As I watched these shows this weekend I could only hope that they each had a soulmate they could lean on and the courage to get back up from falling down.  I hope they do...I really do.